It is said, behind every great man is an even greater woman. Of course we don’t usually realize how truly great a man is until he his dead and gone. It is then we as a society look in retrospective and truly appreciate what a wonder we all have lost. Mozart, Picasso, Lincoln, Kennedy: these names now are immortal, but when these men were alive they were just men doing things that others did not appreciate at the moment, but in the end we saw that they were right. Great women are like that also. We often don’t realize what a precious gem we have found until they are gone.
We are so blinded by our delusions of a flawless stone, that we don’t see the diamond in the rough that we have. Oh yeah, sure when we first meet them were head over heals for them and make sure they know that. But once we say I do, or they move in with us, that all goes out the window. We start nit-picking over stupid stuff. “You spent 5 dollars more than you were suppose to”, “The dishes aren’t done today”, “You spent all MY money”, “I’m tired of supporting your lazy ass”. What we tend not to see is that she spent that extra money because you were out of deodorant, the dishes weren’t done that one day because she was shopping for your birthday present, she’s not spend your money on her but you. And in the end who’s supporting who? Where would you be with out her? unfortunately, you won’t know how much until she gone.
When you make a commitment to be with someone, wedding band or not, you are responsible for what happens. A man is suppose to be the head of his household. Some guys think this means that everyone in the house should obey his every command, but this could not be further from the truth. When you say you are the Head of Household, or The Man of the House, you are saying the you are responsible for everything in it. The people you live with are only as good as you are, and you are only as good as they are. If your house is in disarray, it is not the woman’s fault or your kids fault, it is your fault. And when I say, disarray, I don’t mean just appearance wise, I mean emotionally, and mentally. If the dishes need to be done that day, you need to do them. If your wife/fiance is about to have a breakdown, you need to give attention to her. If your kids are needy, you need to spend time with them. You need to wake up everyday giving 100% to the people in your house, and know that they are giving you the same 100%, and if they couldn’t get to something then you wouldn’t have either. Fill in the holes, that is what you are there for.
